Getting my daughter to complete all homework can be challenging. It is excuse after excuse as to why she hasn’t finished it. The main one being it’s not due right now. Instead, she just chooses not to do it, especially math or anything that might be a little challenging. Finally, I was tired of yelling from the kitchen, soI decided to sit with her the entire time as she slowly went through her assignments for the night. As we got to the math I noticed she paused and started fumbling with her book bag and doing other things instead of staying focused on the math homework. Before I lost my cool, I asked her, “What are you doing? Why the sudden change? what happened within the five minutes that has taken your focus off of your next homework assignment?” She replied, “I’m just going to get it wrong.”
This was an eye opener. This also explains why her grades are not as good as they should be. After I helped her get through her math assignment, she was happy. She realized it wasn’t that she didn’t know it; she was afraid and second-guessing her answers. The lesson learned for me is I need to take time out to see what is really going on instead of yelling from the kitchen. My daughter needed understanding and need extra support from home. From that day forward, I set rules for myself and my daughter.
-Stay calm. It doesn’t help if we are both frustrated.
-Be clear about my expectations of homework. She needs to know nothing is happening before you do your homework.-Make sure you have a good relationship with all of your child’s teachers. By reaching out to them, they can also give you insight on ways you can help them at home
-Make yourself available to help them. Yes, the first thing Ie think about when we walk in the door is starting dinner, but I have to set out time to sit with them if needed.
-Have a comfortable workspace with very little distraction. Having a television or video going is a NO, NO. It must be quiet so they can concentrate.
-Start homework as soon as you get home. -Be upbeat and positive give lots of encouragement.
-Help with time management and organization.
If you are still having trouble with helping your child understand the assignment, it is not a bad idea to get a tutor or reach out to your child’s teacher and see if they can stay after school for additional help. There is light at the end of the tunnel; hang in there!